I wouldn't consider myself to be a very touchy, feely kind of person but I have learned to never take for granted the physical touch and how we need it so much. I couldn't wait to hold and to touch Maddie again 2 days after the accident when we went to the mortuary to see her again. That day eased my emotions from the previous days and the hour and a half we were able to hold her, to have her physically in our arms, was something I needed so bad. Then the past 8 months I haven't had Maddie to hug, to kiss, to hold her hand, to have her sit in my lap, to touch her leg as I drive... has been really hard to go without. Many times when Jordan gives me a hug everyday after work is what I need, just to be held. And now that we have Drake, I can hold him anytime I want, kiss him anytime and I recognize now how I have needed that for so long. Just last night the power went out for about 45 minutes and if any of you know me, I am a little scaredy cat and my mind starts playing tricks on me... anyways we went to bed since we didn't have any light and I asked Jordan to just tickle my back, he not knowing why I asked him, was to ease my anxiety a little to go to bed. Sounds so silly but that physical touch is what I needed to go to bed. He didn't do it for very long and he fell asleep a couple of times doing it but it helped me. Another example is earlier this week Drake was in his little bouncy seat and I knew he was tired and I kept giving his pacifier multiple times after he would spit it out, but he couldn't settle himself down to actually go to sleep. So I gently cupped my hand on half of his face and within seconds he was settled down and asleep. The physical touch is so powerful and having lost it with Maddie makes me more aware at how much we need it in our everyday lives. I love holding Drake in the middle of the night feeding him, I love feeling his soft, delicate skin, I love being held by Jordan, I love receiving hugs from other people. It is something I will never take for granted again.
Saturday, April 25, 2009
The Power of the Physical Touch
I wouldn't consider myself to be a very touchy, feely kind of person but I have learned to never take for granted the physical touch and how we need it so much. I couldn't wait to hold and to touch Maddie again 2 days after the accident when we went to the mortuary to see her again. That day eased my emotions from the previous days and the hour and a half we were able to hold her, to have her physically in our arms, was something I needed so bad. Then the past 8 months I haven't had Maddie to hug, to kiss, to hold her hand, to have her sit in my lap, to touch her leg as I drive... has been really hard to go without. Many times when Jordan gives me a hug everyday after work is what I need, just to be held. And now that we have Drake, I can hold him anytime I want, kiss him anytime and I recognize now how I have needed that for so long. Just last night the power went out for about 45 minutes and if any of you know me, I am a little scaredy cat and my mind starts playing tricks on me... anyways we went to bed since we didn't have any light and I asked Jordan to just tickle my back, he not knowing why I asked him, was to ease my anxiety a little to go to bed. Sounds so silly but that physical touch is what I needed to go to bed. He didn't do it for very long and he fell asleep a couple of times doing it but it helped me. Another example is earlier this week Drake was in his little bouncy seat and I knew he was tired and I kept giving his pacifier multiple times after he would spit it out, but he couldn't settle himself down to actually go to sleep. So I gently cupped my hand on half of his face and within seconds he was settled down and asleep. The physical touch is so powerful and having lost it with Maddie makes me more aware at how much we need it in our everyday lives. I love holding Drake in the middle of the night feeding him, I love feeling his soft, delicate skin, I love being held by Jordan, I love receiving hugs from other people. It is something I will never take for granted again.
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Thanks Marlo! You always know just how to send the sweetest reminders to us moms that might take a few things for granted. I just love you Marlo!
That is so sweet Marlo! It is so true.. and something I don't think about often. I love reading your blog.. You are definitely an inspiration to all of us moms!
You said it so perfectly. Your insights are sweet too. Thanks for the reminder, I needed it. (Oh, and I get really anxious too!)
I know you don't know me but your husband and I grew up in the same ward. Anyways, I have enjoyed reading your stories. You surely are inspiring. This last one truly touched me. I do take my kids for granted all too often. Thanx so much for that beautiful reminder. Your little Drake is beautiful. Love the photos.
Marlo I love the things you write! I definately needed that reminder. Thanks for being such a good example! I wish we lived closer so we could hang out again and talk like we used to!
~Kally~
Marlo that was the sweetest thing I've read in a long time. It's so true and so irreplaceable! I would hug you too if I was there!
Beautifully said, Marlo. And so true. Gorgeous picture as well.
As I'm sitting here trying to read your blog, Nathan is bugging me to hold him and read him a book. I think I will put the computer away and read to him. Thanks for the reminder.
this is so sweet, it really made me think. the next time my little one is being a pill maybe i should stop what i am doing and hold her, play with her.
thank u!!!
ashley
I am so grateful for your post Marlo. Thank you for reminding us of the little things that matter. You are such a great mother and example to everyone around you. We love you!
What a sweet post, Marlo. It's so true, and it is good to be reminded of what a blessing it really is!
I read this post a few days ago and have been really thinking about what you said. I love how you put it in perspective for me...the simplest thing...a personal touch...can calm any fear, sadness, sleepiness and even crankiness. I've thought of this I think every day as I have touched my children, and been touched by them. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I think you've touched a lot of people.
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